Becoming Joyful: Overcoming the Scarcity Mindset
Another friend gets engaged, or gushes about how great her new boyfriend is on Facebook, how do you feel? Are you happy for her? Excited to hear more about your friends relationship status?
During an extended time of singleness it can be difficult to be happy for others who seem to be having more success in relationships or more success in life in general than we are. Somehow our friends’ good news stops filling us with joy and starts to feel like an intentional insult to remind us of how far behind we’ve fallen in life.
Why is it that we seem to struggle to celebrate when someone else gets something that we want?
I think many of us have a scarcity mindset that makes it hard for us to be joyful when life isn’t going quite like we planned.
What is a scarcity mindset?
It’s the thinking that the're’s not enough to go around. Not enough great degrees, not enough good jobs and definitely not enough good men for everyone. This mindset causes us to panic whenever someone else gets something that we want for ourselves. We immediately begin to panic, thinking that they took the last good opportunity and that there won’t be anything left for us.
This is the wrong mindset!
The world tries to tell us there is a scarcity problem, that there’s not enough to go around. We’re told to we need to hustle and get what we want before it’s gone.
It’s so easy to get caught up in this way of thinking! But, there’s good news!
God does not operate in a scarcity mindset, He is a God of abundance!
God is a good father who loves giving good things to his children! Not only does he give good things, he gives them abundantly!
Luke 11: 11-13 Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish , will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!
2 Corinthians 9:8 And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.
1 Timothy 1:14 The grace of our Lord was poured out on me abundantly, along with the faith and love that are in Christ Jesus.
2 Peter 1:2 Grace and peace be yours in abundance through the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord.
These are just a few examples of the good gifts that God gives in abundance!
With this knowledge we no longer have to be scared or panicked when someone else gets something we wanted!
When your friend gets engaged God is not in heaven wringing his hands wondering if there’s going to be anyone left for you. Quite the opposite!
Our God is abundantly good and kind and has plans beyond imagination for all of his children.
Ephesians 3:20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.
If we embrace the meaning of this verse, it will totally change our thinking and enable us to be joyful. Not only does God give abundantly, his plans are bigger and better than anything we could’ve imagined for ourselves.
There’s no reason to be bitter or jealous or feel panicked when great things happen to other people! If someone else meets a great guy that doesn’t mean there’s no one left for you. If your coworker gets the big promotion that doesn’t mean there’s no great opportunities left for you.
Everyone’s story will be different! Remembering that God is good and gives abundantly, will help you fight off the feelings of jealousy that tend to creep in and enable you to be joyful when others receive opportunities or things that you have wished for yourself.