Start Something New
One of the best things you can do to enhance your single life is invest in a hobby. Find something you’ve always wanted to do and dive right in!
1. Figure Out What YOU Want to Do
One of the nice things about being single is that you have a little more free time and probably a bit more money to spend doing whatever you want to! Obviously, don’t spend more than you can afford, but it’s totally OK to invest a bit of you hard earned money into an activity that will make you happy!
It can be anything! Don’t limit yourself! I feel like the word "hobby" has a crafty connotation, but don't let that discourage you! A hobby can be ANYTHING. Have you always wanted to try horseback riding, cooking, sailing, pole dancing, glass blowing, bar tending, singing, swimming? Seriously anything! I know single ladies who have tried all sorts of things they never thought they could do and have ended up finding a new passion.
2. Make Sure It's What YOU Want to Do
The most important thing is to make sure it’s what YOU want to do. Not what your friends are doing, not what your church group is doing, not what your mom wants you to do, but what YOU want to do. It may seem more sensible to take a class in something that could help your career or could be used to help those around you, but I would encourage you to make this all about you. I think we sometimes get so busy trying to get ahead at work and trying to help our families and contribute to our communities that we forget to take care of ourselves. Use this new hobby as a way to unplug from everything and take time for you!
I would also encourage you to be brave and start this hobby by yourself. While it might seem like more fun to recruit a friend to go with you, friends can sometimes talk us out of things we want to try. Maybe you’ve been dying to try hot yoga so you sign up and convince a friend to come with you. Halfway through the class you’re loving it but your friend feels like she might actually die and begs you to leave and go grab an iced coffee instead. What do you do? Well, you’ll probably leave with your friend and grab coffee.
If your new hobby starts off as a group activity, you might quit or not want to go if the rest of your group can’t come. If you go by yourself, you will immediately know if this is something you love and won't have your opinion affected by others.
I decided a few months ago that I wanted to take up watercolor painting. I’d never tried it and had no reason to think I’d be good at it, but I signed up and I love it!
3. Find Someone Who Can Teach You
Where do you find classes or activities to go to? Great question! If you’re looking for something low cost, I’d recommend you start your search with a library or a community group. Libraries offer lots of low cost educational opportunities. Even if your library doesn’t offer a class in ceramics, chances are they can tell you where to look, I swear librarians know everything!
Another idea would be a community center or city or neighborhood website. Community centers often offer low cost exercise and educational classes. Larger cities or suburban areas often have some kind of community enrichment programs that offer a variety of programs at low cost to people who live locally. If you live in a small town, check out a larger town nearby. You may still be able to take advantage of their classes or groups at a slightly increased price.
If you’ve got a bit more money to spend check out museums or community colleges. Many museums offer classes to the public, although sometimes you need to become a museum member first. The watercolor classes I take are through the community botanical garden. The botanical garden near me also offers classes in drawing, ceramics, cooking and glass blowing! Who would’ve thought! Community colleges often have classes for community members in the evenings or in the summer. These classes aren’t cheap, but some of them are taught by the college professors so you know you’ll learn a lot!
I’d recommend going to a cheaper class first if you’re diving into something totally new and aren’t sure if you’ll even like it. You don’t want to sign up for a 10 week long community college course in drawing only to realize you absolutely hate it the first week.
Google is your friend while trying to find a class! You will truly be amazed the number of activities that are offered in your area that you didn’t even know about!
4. Invest In YOU
Investing in a hobby for yourself will enhance your life. You will gain confidence just knowing you did something just for you. If it makes you happy it's not a waste of time. It's so important to find pockets of time daily, weekly and monthly to just unplug and refocus. Having a hobby you enjoy will greatly help with this!
Quit believing the lie that your life will start when you're in a relationship, or when you have the kids you've always dreamed of. Life starts today! All you have to do is start living!